Emotional Intelligence and Personal Growth

HOW DO WE CHANGE?
If we spot loser-like tendencies in ourselves, the first step is to admit to that and want to change. This is the most challenging part, following which one of many tools can be used for effecting change in ourselves.
Fredrick Perls- GESTALT THERAPY
Briefly, this therapy helps people discover the various sides to their personalities. People might have been projecting themselves differently even without realizing it. The "chair" approach encourages people to take the "hot seat" and the "opposite chair" and try to sustain both ends of conversation. For example, an outwardly calm person might discover hidden fears and anger. A person could discover hidden feelings for another person. They could relive their dreams. This technique is called role-playing.
Eric Berne- TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS
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